My dear friends,
The third and fourth precepts under the sixth point in Geshe Chekawa's Mind Training in Seven Points are:
Think not about whatever is seen in others.
On the Bodhisattva path, applying these precepts involves cultivating a mindset of compassion, understanding, and self-awareness. Here are some practical steps and insights to help you apply these precepts for the benefit of yourself and all beings.
Cultivate Compassion and Empathy
- Recognize Common Humanity: Understand that everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. By seeing others' shortcomings as part of the human experience, we can develop greater compassion.
- Shift Perspective: Consider the reasons behind others' actions. Often, people act out of their own suffering or ignorance. Seeing this can soften our judgment and foster empathy.
Practice Mindfulness and Self-Reflection
- Monitor Speech: Be aware of your words. Before speaking, ask yourself if your words are true, necessary, and kind.
- Reflect on Intentions: Examine why you feel the need to speak of others' shortcomings. Often, it may stem from a desire to feel superior or from unresolved issues within oneself.
Develop Positive Speech and Thought Patterns
- Praise and Encourage: Focus on others' strengths and virtues. Offer genuine praise and encouragement, which can uplift and inspire them.
- Cultivate Inner Silence: Practice meditative silence and mindfulness to reduce the impulse to speak negatively. This helps in developing inner peace and patience.
Practice Forgiveness and Understanding
- Forgive Others: Let go of grudges and resentments. Holding onto these feelings often leads to speaking ill of others.
- Understand Karma: Recognize that everyone is subject to their own karma. Speaking ill of others can create negative karma for oneself.
Transform Negative Speech into Positive Actions
- Help Rather than Criticize: If you notice someone’s shortcomings, consider how you can help them improve rather than criticize them. Offer support and guidance with a kind heart.
- Lead by Example: Demonstrate through your own actions the qualities you wish to see in others. Your positive behavior can be a powerful influence.
Benefit to Self and Others
- Inner Peace: Refraining from speaking of others' shortcomings helps in cultivating inner tranquility and reducing mental agitation.
- Harmonious Relationships: Positive speech fosters trust, respect, and harmony in relationships, creating a supportive and loving community.
- Spiritual Growth: This practice aligns with the Bodhisattva path of developing Bodhicitta, the mind of love and compassion, and helps in progressing towards enlightenment.
By integrating these practices, you can create a positive impact on your own spiritual journey and contribute to the well-being of all beings. These precepts encourage the cultivation of a loving and compassionate heart, leading to a more harmonious and enlightened world.
Or how can you say to your neighbor, 'Friend, let me take out the speck in your eye,'
when you yourself do not see the log in your own eye?
You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye,
and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your neighbor's eye."
- Luke 6:41-42